In Part One we talked about recognizing good and bad traits in people. How to determine if someone is good or bad, and the human ability to grow and self actualize. In this part, we will be answering the final question "How do we become better", and giving you a self-evaluation plan.
Some of the concepts I listed previously pertain to this next part. This includes selflessness, generosity, compassion, and honest intentions. All of these, among others, are traits that build a good person. Being a better person is a choice we make every day. It is deciding to ignore a bad driver. It is choosing to give spare change to someone in need. Being good means trying out best to make a meaningful and impactful decisions whenever we can.
While helping each other and practicing selflessness is important, self-care is just as important if not more. It is important to find a balance between tailoring to yourself, and others. It is important to note, that helping yourself is not a negative form of selfishness. Everyone is selfish in some kind of way. Taking time to treat your needs doesn't mean you're any less of a good person.
You must define what a "good person" is and meet those preanal expectations. Define what you believe a good person should do in their heart and mind. Build the idea of your perfect person as if it's a person in a storybook. What values do they hold? What morals do they believe?
We're all born with an innate sense of morality and fairness, which makes us receptacles to the emotions of others. This innate sense can be described as our conscious, or that little voice in your head that tells you right from wrong. Your consciousness is a relationship you have to build and grow with yourself. A good way to please your conscious is to teach is new things. Study morals and ethics and values, and build your character. Morality is what makes us so different. Many people bend their moral values depending on the present situation
For this example, we’ll discuss two types of moral structures “Firm” and “Flexible”. The reason we are so different is that we rank our values differ from each other. This can be observed as these two constructs.
- A Flexible complex however is based on the idea of moral particularism. Moral Particularism is a theory in meta-ethics where there are no moral principles and that moral judgment is determined by relevant factors in a particular context. This contradicts other prominent moral theories, such as deontology, consequential, and virtue ethics.
- A firm moral complex is based on the idea that there are predetermined and absolute truths when it comes to the nature of good and bad. This means that things like honesty are always important, and under no circumstances shall these values be compromised or changed.
Relationships have a huge impact on who we are and how we act. Who we associate with and the relationships we form, directly influence our decision-making and our values. Being able to create and sustain healthy relationships entails effective communication, mutual respect, and taking responsibility for your actions. If you are able to maintain healthy relationships you are probably a much better person than you think. After all, who would want to be in a relationship with someone they don't find reasonably good?
SO Here are our issues:
Too many of us have lost a sense of collective responsibility for our neighbors. So many people want to "be better" or be a "good person". but many of them don't understand exactly what that entails. Our goal with these classes is to answer these questions for you.
Finally, how do we apply all this? We just learned a lot in the two parts of this lesson. We have to make a plan. Who you want to be is the biggest question now. You've learned what makes a person good or bad. You've learned how to spot good and bad traits in people. You've learned we have the ability to grow. Here is my advice
Continue to live. Spend some time studying individual value systems as well as morals and ethics. This will give you a basis for your personal profile. Next, you want to build your personal profile. Build the character YOU want to be. Focus on your decisions and the intentions you hold as you go through life. Doing this will allow you to correct any ill motivations.
Define who you want to be and stick to it. You cant operate at 100% goodness if you don't know who you are. building your personal profile will help with that. Next focus on your relationships, these carry a lot of effect on who you become.
Focus on growing and being better by focusing on what you allow in your life and what emotions/actions you put out into the world. Be mindful of your needs and expectations as well as others.